Take care nοt tο slam mе fοr thіѕ, I already feel lіkе a heel experience. Unfortunately I hаνе nοt managed tο mаkе аn incursion οn mу Wahrnehmungen.Ich lіkе mу wife dearly, аnd аftеr ѕο many years, I lіkе hеr more thаn еνеr zuvor.Sie wаѕ always clunky, bυt I lіkе slight women hаѕ klobig.Sie Recently a generous amount οf weight аnd hаѕ nοt a priority fοr thеm tο lose іt. . I lіkе hеr very much аnd dο nοt want tο hυrt thеm, bυt thеіr physical changes аrе tο bе noted аn vital issue fοr mе, one hаѕ thаt thеу ѕtаrtеd whеn thеу qυеѕtіοnеd mе qυеѕtіοnѕ whу I’m nοt аѕ ardent аѕ I once wаѕ, οr whу I dο nοt touch ѕο much mehr.Gibt thеrе аnу way аt аll thаt I tеll hеr I саn dο іt through thе loss οf physical attraction I feel without hurting hеr? Or аm I doomed wіth hіm fοr thе rest οf ουr relationship wіth ? Signed live Disappointed In Myself
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you need to tell her this…someway. try getting her to workout with you, or a membership to a gym. try to be very nice about it, but i agree with you…she needs to loose the weight
Suck it up and tell her there’s just more of her to like.
go to your own bedroon, your sex life is officially over my friend
Talk to her and be supportive. Go on a diet with her, tell her it is for each of your overall health
tell her about all the health risks of obesity such as heart problems and augmented risk of a heart attack
tell that you really like her but her weight is very unattractive to you as it once was, and that you dont mean to hurt her
excellent luck
I don’t know why people can’t tell each other how they feel anymore. Why is it so hard to say, “You quit taking care of yourself and it feels like you take me and my like for granted when you do that.”
When you are married it is your duty to be the best person you can be to you partner and kids, physically and mentally. I reckon it’s an insult when one gets too comfortable and let’s themselves go.
Truth be told you can’t want intimacy with someone find unattractive.
Tell her you want to be healthy together. Start doing active things together. Buy a treadmill. work out at home together and go for morning and evening walks.
Excellent Luck.
I wish I could help but it seems no matter how you place it she might take it hard. Maybe make small hints like lets go for a walk it’s so nice. Or if you have a gym near by lets see who can go the longest or lift the most, or go swimming. If you have kids take them somewhere to play. As much as you find her unattractive you need to make the effort yourself to still be intimate with her, you can’t lose sight of that. You should set a excellent example by getting up and doing more, maybe she’ll follow
work out with her
You’re not doomed. You just have to be honest with her. Maybe not telling her that you don’t find her attractive anymore but that you wish she’d lose weight. Maybe the two of you could exercise and diet together. If she feels like you’re with her 100% on it she’ll be more likely to give it a shot and to succeed. A nice way of putting it would be to tell her that you want the two of you to get healthy again together. Excellent Luck. Remember that is still that same woman that she was the day you got married that sexy goddess you married that could get you all riled up. She’s still the same her packaging has just gotten a small different.
Best of Luck my friend to you and your wife. Bless you for not lacking to hurt your wife.
Enduring joint mortality is part of the price of marriage.
Both people in a couple gain weight as they age. Tell me, have you lost any teeth? Developed any moles? Grey hair? Hair in unacceptable places? Gingivitis?
You will simply have to accept her the same way she accepts you. I would suggest counseling so that you can learn how.
You doubtless need to say something to her. I delt with the opposite. My husband got so emaciated , he had a 27 inch waist and I could see his bones!! I didn’t want to have sex with him either. I finally said something and he was trying to place weight on. He finally is at a 34 inch waist where he should be. Either way, too emaciated, or too stout, it is best to just say something.
Simple. Next time she questions you “Does this dress make me look stout?”, just look her square in the eye, and tell her “No dear, YOU are stout.” And remember, shes chunky, so she can’t run as quick as you. Heehee
Unfortunately, there’s nothing you can without hurting her feelings… Maybe you could lead the way by example??? start cooking the meals at home a few times a week and making them healthy and low stout… say that ‘you’ want to lose some weight… also maybe start going to the gym or afternoon walks. If you are already within a healthy weight range, or on the lower side, you could say you want to become healthier now that you are getting older your body is starting to feel it?? or something like that…
Maybe you can start a progressive health / exercise regimen you two can do together.
Start by walking together.
Help her cook or suggest healthy meal thoughts when you eat together.
Work up to something like “I’m concerned about men my age starting to get prostate cancer and stuff, hon, and I want to go to the gym…. but I don’t want to go alone. ” Would you go with me once a week? (Then, twice a week… yadda yadda)
If you already go to the gym, then you can clarify to her that you miss her when you see other couples up there and that you would like a partner at the gym.
Excellent luck.
But bottom line, “for surpass or worse” were the vows.
I had surgery last year and my hormones were a mess afterwards. The doctor place me on Effexor and in six months I place on 20 pounds. My husband despised it. He tried to tell me he was worried about my health but I knew he was having distress with the way I looked. And the more he commented on something I was eating, the more I sought after to eat. I resented that for the first time in 28 years, I’m a small heavy and he is giving me a hard time.
There is nothing anyone could have said to me to make me work on losing the weight. I was not ready emotionally. Please don’t comment to your wife in a negative way. Don’t mention joining a gym, she’ll see through you. All it is going to do is upset her. I lost the weight when I was ready to lose it and she will too. If you are asking for information, coming from someone who has been there, bring her flowers. Tell her how gorgeous she is. How lucky you are to be married to her. If she feels excellent about herself, she will want to look excellent too. I find myself being annoyed that you are no longer attracted to her. Can’t you look past the body and see the excellent heart?
P.S. Lost 30 pounds with the help of Weight Watchers. Husband very pleased.
I don’t have the answer for you, i am in the same boat. exactly. I have been with my girlfriend for 18 years, and we just got married his year. even though i am not attracted to her i still like her and know we will always be together. i am very athletically built and attractive to women, but my wife has let herself go. she is not the woman i fell in like with (physically), but is the best woman i have ever had. i guess I’m saying when you get your answer let me know!!
tell her that being overweight is terrible for her health and you like her so much that you do not want anything to happen to her.
Here is the deal. Men are attracted to physical beauty, and women are attracted to stability and security. That is why if you ever look at the stats on dating sites, women at the age of 25 have a 2 to 1 ratio of men seeking them. Men at age 47 have the opposite, 2 women seeking for every one man. More women need to realize this and actively keep their looks up, it would make for a healthier relationship – ALL men are bothered by it, but most will never say a word. When I say actively, I mean everything from exercise, diet, and even light cosmetic. Now, for the men, you must continue developing yourself personally for growth in earnings, and as a provider. If you are the type who won’t continue to learn and climb to be the top of your profession, then you are the exact same bother to your wife on the other side of the same coin. Now for the really clean part, if both are in harmony, your wife’s beauty will continue to drive you to privileged success. Another point of interest, research indicates the ultimate span of age between man and women for marriage is 14 years – this naturally will take care of both points of interest.