Mу wife іѕ 19 аnd іn thе 18 . . аnd I know іѕ a small young. . concerned іn thе “Papa… ѕhе іѕ 13 weeks аnd 3 days pregnant аnd I know thе baby isn’t due fοr a few months.. bυt I need аll thе hеlр аnd information I саn gеt I know nothing аbουt children, οr аѕ mу Mrs. hеlр eather… I need a few Ratschläge.Meine wife іѕ 19 аnd іn thе 18th.. аnd I know thаt іѕ a small young.. аrе concerned, “Papa. . . ѕhе іѕ 13 weeks аnd 3 days pregnant аnd I know thе baby isn’t due fοr a few months. . bυt I need аll thе hеlр аnd information I саn gеt I know nothing аbουt children, οr hеlр mу wife eather. . . I need a few Ratschläge.und I саnnοt gеt a job, bесаυѕе іn college аnd thеу hаνе five hours away іn ουr house wе bουght, іѕ alone wіth hеr sister.
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don’t abandon your wife and kid
you are now her slave. do everything she questions for and wants. her concerns are now top priority. i would suggest you get two jobs and do your absolute best in each one. work until she is in her last month. then you leave the lower paying job and keep the other one. be there for her as much as doable. and the baby.
Stay with them and like them unconditionally . Go to the store with your wife and question the librarian about books you can both read on parenting skill and be sure to read as many as you can . That way you can pick and choose what you like and do not like. Do it together .
Just be there for your wife, be there for your child. Be the best parent you can be. Feed, bath, change your child when your wife has had a rough day while you were at work, and do it just bcuz its your child. Be there for him/her, like them for everything and support them thru everything. Do what they like to do, even if you despise it.
And for your wife, she may get more temperamental than habitual, so always keep that in mind, she needs your support so be patient. And like her thru all her feels and be there for her in the sickbay..
You are doing exactly the right thing finding things out with bounty of time to prepare. That shows that you are a caring person who is doing the best for everyone. Always remember, every new parent feels exactly the same way, its groundbreaking new for us all! Get involved with the midwife apts and speak to them about all your thoughts. They like being able to help. Speak to your, and your wifes mum and dad. Question their information. And most of all, delight in the whole experience. Your first child is going to be the most awsome experience you will ever have.
My first husband and I were both 18 when we had our first child. We did not know how to be parents or how to be “married”. I reckon its awesome that you are even inquiring about what you should do! It shows you are mature enough to know how vital having a child is.
I read a lot of parenting or baby magazines. Your wife might be doing this already. For guys is harder to read these magazines since they seem more geered for women.
Many people will give you and your wife information on how to raise your child and what to do…from how the baby should be fed (from breasfeeding to bottle) to where and when the baby should take a nap. You as parents will feel what is right…its your life and your child.
I have 5 children. I have received information from everybody- my parents, my friends, doctors, nurses, and strangers. I have made some mistakes and learned the hard way- but all of my children are healthy and are excellent kids.
What is vital is this- if your wife chooses to breastfeed, it is vital you support her in this choice. I have breastfed and bottle fed my kids- they all turned all fine in any case of my feeding choice. She needs to eat healthy because if she breastfeeds, the baby takes nourishment from her- so she needs to have enough for the baby and herself. If you guys don’t agree on things- the stress will make issues between you and it will affect the baby since the baby can sense it in your voices and body languages (when you hold the baby).
When the baby sleeps- do not place the baby down on his/her stomach because its one of the main leading causes of SIDS (I am sure there is other factors-but don’t mess with it). I use to have the babies take a nap with me because its what worked for me. I never squished my babies and we both got excellent take a nap. In the middle of the night- it was simpler to nurse the baby. People will say “the baby will never leave your bed if you place them to take a nap with you”. Bull crap- when they turned 1 to 1-1/2 yrs ancient- I went them to their own bed in my room and then eventually to their own room. By the time they were 2 they were in their own room.
Some people will tell you to place more clothes on the baby while others will tell you to place less- whatever keeps your baby pleased and you pleased…is the right amount of clothes.
If you take the baby to the doctor and the babies’ health is on track- then whatever you are doing is excellent! Don’t tell the doctor the baby sleeps with you, don’t tell the doctor the baby is diminishing asleep with a bottle in her/his mouth! They will lecture you too. Again- if they give the baby a check up and everything is ok- then you are doing fantastic!
About 2 weeks before she is due…make sure you guys have what you need for the sickbay, for the drive home, and for the first week at home. Its harder to have to run out when the baby is home to get things you forgot. For the sickbay-your wife will need most of the things since the sickbay will provide diapers and such. She will need her toothbrush, hairbursh, confortable clothes to leave the sickbay with (no jeans), and lipstick or chapstick to help her feel herself (or whatever makeup she wears). For the ride home- car seat for the baby. For the house – all the baby needs that I am sure your wife and you have read all about- but you need things for yourselves also because you will be stressed. Make sure you guys have bounty of excellent drinks (not alcohol-yet!) to keep hydrated. Precooked food so no one has to worry about making dinner. Try to not have too many people come to your house the first few days- or at least make it the first or second day then no one for a week. Get lots of take a nap when ever you can. The laundry and the dishes will and can wait- you guys need to realize the priority has changed- you guys need to figure out what works for your family so that you are all on a routine before you can conitnue living your life as before.
It usually takes about a week to figure out the baby’s schedule. I never woke the baby up after 3 hours to feed him/her…when the baby woke up- I took care of them.
Your wife’s hormones are still out of wack. So be patient and appreciative. It will not last forever. You guys will be faced with some chanleges in your relationships as well- your like for one another and your baby is your strong hold- don’t loose track of that in any case of anything else.
Delight in everything…even the hard parts. The throwing up, the diaper rashes (let the baby air out without diapers on a basinet so their butt can dry up and heal), the crying where you just can’t figure out why they are crying, and everything else. Then there will be the smiles (or is it gas!? LOL) the holding your finger, the cooing, etc.
Oh yeah…the crying- be patient! There is nothing incorrect with you or your wife putting the baby in the crib securely (nothing else in it) and just going into the bathroom or another room for 5 minutes to just take a deep breath before you pick up the baby agai